Sex therapy sessions are designed to provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental environment where clients can explore and address their sexual concerns. Whether working with individuals or couples, I take a holistic approach that integrates the MEBES and PLISSIT models of sex therapy to ensure comprehensive and effective care.

The MEBES Model of Sexology

I utilize the MEBES Model, which stands for Mind, Emotions, Body, Energy, and Spirit, to approach sexual issues in a holistic manner. This model recognizes that sexual well-being is not just about physical function but is deeply interconnected with mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

1. Mind: I start by exploring the psychological aspects of sexual concerns. This involves understanding clients' thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes towards sex. Cognitive-behavioral techniques may be used to help clients reframe negative thoughts and develop a healthier mindset around sexuality.

2. Emotions: I delve into the emotional components that may be influencing sexual issues. This includes identifying and processing feelings such as shame, guilt, anxiety, or past trauma that might be impacting sexual intimacy.

3. Body: I address the physical aspects of sexuality, including anatomy, sexual function, and health. I may work with clients on understanding their bodies better, improving sexual function, or addressing any physical concerns that may be affecting their sexual lives.

4. Energy: Recognizing the role of energy in sexual connection, I incorporate practices that help clients become more attuned to their energy levels and how these affect their sexual experiences. This can involve mindfulness, breathing exercises, and other techniques to enhance sexual energy.

5. Spirit: Finally, I acknowledge the spiritual dimension of sexuality, understanding that for many clients, sex is not just a physical act but a deeply spiritual experience. I help clients explore this aspect, whether it involves connecting with their own sense of spirituality or understanding how it influences their sexual expression.

The PLISSIT Model of Sex Therapy

In conjunction with the MEBES Model, I also apply the PLISSIT Model, which provides a structured approach to sexual therapy that meets clients where they are in their sexual journey. PLISSIT stands for Permission, Limited Information, Specific Suggestions, and Intensive Therapy.

1. Permission: I begin by giving clients permission to discuss their sexual concerns openly. I normalize the conversation around sex and create a space where clients feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and experiences without fear of judgment.

2. Limited Information: I then provide clients with relevant information that may help them better understand their sexual concerns. This could include education about sexual health, dispelling myths, or clarifying misconceptions about sex and intimacy.

3. Specific Suggestions: Based on the information gathered, I offer specific suggestions tailored to the client’s unique situation. These could be exercises, techniques, or behavioral changes designed to address the particular sexual issue at hand. For example, I might suggest communication exercises for couples, mindfulness practices, or specific sexual techniques to enhance intimacy.

4. Intensive Therapy: If the issue is complex and requires deeper exploration, I engage in more intensive therapy. This may involve delving into past traumas, unresolved emotional conflicts, or long-standing relationship patterns that are affecting sexual well-being. Intensive therapy is typically longer-term and may involve more in-depth work to achieve lasting change.

What to Expect in a Session

Each session with me is personalized, ensuring that the therapy aligns with the client’s unique needs and goals. I typically begin with an assessment to understand the client’s sexual history, concerns, and goals. This is followed by a discussion of the different models I use and how they might apply to the client’s situation.

Throughout the sessions, I encourage open communication, self-reflection, and the development of practical skills. I might integrate exercises that clients can practice between sessions to reinforce what they’ve learned and continue making progress.

My ultimate goal is to help clients achieve a fulfilling and satisfying sexual life, whether by improving communication, resolving conflicts, or addressing specific sexual concerns. By combining the MEBES and PLISSIT models, I offer a comprehensive approach that addresses the mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual aspects of sexuality.